and yet more changes

My garden is looking so lovely right now, as high summer approaches and all the little plants and cuttings recently planted are starting to grow up and bloom. Despite the drought, our work-around has been successful – (grey water, gutter overflow, pipes, buckets, etc) – and Peter has helped me take wonderful care of it all. He’s busy deadheading the daisy bushes as I write this.

Sadly, it won’t be mine for much longer: it’s time to pack up house again and move on. It’s not my first option but circumstances are such that I must accept somebody else’s first option. I have not made any permanent living plans for the rest of my year, I’m just going to focus on packing and sorting and clearing up space and believing that everything happens for a reason. I don’t actually truly think that, to be honest. I think things happen that we have little control over and then we just deal with them because we have no choice – it’s in looking back that we can reshape events and change perspective so as to find silver linings and positive outcomes, because to do otherwise would be too bleak to consider. Just my view. Bit of a miserable one, I suppose, but I’m stuck with it!

Yesterday, this was the front part of my tv lounge.


Today, I can actually see some floor:

Room 4

The car is packed with stuff to be taken to the charity shop. Let me get on with that before I run out of steam….

20 thoughts on “and yet more changes

  1. katechiconi

    Being subject to someone else’s decisions is one of the hardest things for an intelligent adult to accept, whether at home or in the workplace. Bravo for your philosophical attitude. I wish you a lovely garden wherever you may put down your roots. xxx

    1. Nice Piece of Work Post author

      I could be difficult (ie. more selfish than the other party) by simply refusing to sell (it is owned 50/50), so no title deed can exchange hands without my agreement. The alternative is definitely unpleasant, though, and life is short. It’s very possible that I will look outside Cape Town for a new house: CT is over-populated and good property is very expensive. Since we were just in the Klein Karoo and did a lot of driving around, I’m thinking Ashton, Robertson or McGregor. Excellent value for money, only 2 hours from CT (on tip-top roads), very beautiful winelands, mountains, etc, and I could get a big fat 4-bedroomed Victorian house on about 2000m2 for less than I would pay for a tiny flat in my present suburb.
      But you are right about the garden – I can always make a new one :)
      Thanks for your kind words.

  2. Catherine

    Oh, how difficult this decision must be for you. But it sounds like you have taken a great approach to it and those large houses and lots of land do have appeal!

  3. The Little Room of Rachell

    I’m with you; I think everthing happens for many reasons, we have choices and there are consequences. It’s how we view them and our positive mental attitude which gets us through, or not at the time.
    I hope the upheaval throws up some good times in the middle of it and a fresh new place to be you afterwards.

  4. nanacathy2

    The garden is lovely, no wonder you are sad to leave it.It is nice to see such lovliness when we are in the depths of winter here.
    Moving house stinks at the best of times, boxes and mess everywhere, worry, etc. But as my friend Claire would say , and I could cheerfully have done something drastic each and every time she said it, It’s an Opportunity.
    And if you look on bad things as an Opportunity then maybe they are not so bad.
    A day at a time that’s the way to do it, or as a character in a book I am reading keeps saying, Focus on the Next 10 yards.
    So here’s to the future m’dear. xx

    1. Nice Piece of Work Post author

      You and Claire are right – it IS an opportunity. I am already feeling more postive about it from everybody’s comments here, so thank you! When it’s all over and done with, there will be a housewarming and you will all be invited! :) :) :)

  5. Linne

    Oh, jill, I just read your last comment (re: housewarming) and my first thought was ‘be careful what you ask for; lol) I do have to say that the sound of a four bedroom Victorian on property sounds pretty irresistible. And at least you will have a grubstake (something to get started on). I’ve had more than a few big upheavals in my life and I know how challenging they can be.

    One rather interesting thing: I have a room here at my cousins; and it has slowly, for many reasons (including the comfort of familiarity) become extremely messy, with piles everywhere and little in the drawers of the two dressers. I’ve been living out of the suitcase ever since early summer, when we had the very real forest fires scare. And, for many reasons I was in a slump of my own. But this year will be different and today I emptied the closet and organized it, then emptied out the suitcase, too. I haven’t exactly put things away yet, but I’ve decided to deal with one area at a time. I was inspired when I stopped working (after clearing off the couch I sleep on) and saw your photos of your tv room. Different reasons and all that, but I felt good thinking of you clearing things up end me doing the same.

    You are in my thoughts, you know, and I wish you all the best with this next shift in your life. Sorry about the long reply; I get sort of ‘chatty’ this time of night and sometimes just write as if I were visiting over tea.

    I’m sending you lots of positive energy and many hugs.
    Love and Light to you, Jill. ~ Linne

  6. The Snail of Happiness

    I have no idea why I hadn’t seen this post until today… either WordPress does not always let me know when someone I follow posts or I am just rubbish at noticing! I’m sorry you’ll be leaving your home and garden through no choice of your own. I hope that wherever you buy next will be 100% yours so that you can be back in control. Oh, and how much I want to come to your housewarming party!!

    1. Nice Piece of Work Post author

      The last one was pretty good, so if that’s anything to go by I’ll be surrounded by friends :)
      I’ve already been taking cuttings of plants here so will have something to start my new garden off with, wherever it may be. Sorting out my office today – bit unpleasant because the temperature is in the 30s, but have dinner and theatre to look forward this evening, so that will be my reward :)


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