Today I’m sending a parcel to someone in Limpopo, the northernmost province in South Africa. The parcel consists of a BonBon in cranberry, a newsboy (cranberry and black), and a pair of house slippers (not cranberry!)
They’re going to someone I know, whose wedding Rob and I attended three years ago, who has two beautiful daughters, two stepchildren, a wonderful husband, a loving extended family, a talent for painting like she’s been trained in fine arts (which she hasn’t), and a good career, at which she works very hard.
Two weeks ago she went to the GP for a check-up, because her right hip felt mildly painful. Turns out to have been secondary bone cancer (hip, ribs and skull), the primary being breast cancer. Stage Four. She’s 43. Today she starts an aggressive course of radiation therapy. (Interestingly, she has a mammogram every year, the last one in December 2013, eight weeks ago. Nothing was picked up.)
Last night I was reading Deepak Chopra’s book Ageless Body Timeless Mind (1993). This stayed with me: “Live in the present, for it is the only moment you have. Keep your attention on what is here and now, look for the fullness in every moment. Accept what comes to you totally and completely so that you can appreciate it, learn from it, and then let it go….Don’t struggle against the infinite scheme of things; instead, be at one with it.”
I cannot know how my friend would interpret this right now, or her husband and children and mom but, if I was a prayerful person, I would pray that it is with hope for a cure and a longer, even more beautiful life.
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